But as complicated as it might be, it is always interesting and sometimes rather funny when you get to find out and explore all the cultural differences.” -Andy and Ben “Learn the language and never compare the two countries.
For me, learning the language wasn’t just about something I had to do. I needed a job and personally needed to no longer feel like an outsider looking in.
Therefore, either have a friend so you all pair up, or you need an odd number: 1, she is by herself; or 3, so she can spend some time with you because she leaves two friends together.
American girls are much less used to guys being gentlemen — opening the door for the lady, waiting for her to sit before you sit, etc.
An American girl giving you her phone number means she is considering going out with you. With an Italian girl, you will work hard just to get her phone number. The fact that she says no the first time doesn’t mean she can’t go out or doesn’t want to. Now, the third time she says no, she means it (and don’t insist). Italian guys take the same amount of time to get ready as American girls.
It doesn’t take long to get — after all, it’s her number, not a wedding ring. Right away, she wants to have an idea of how hard you are going to work to get her attention. On the one hand, fashion, elegance, and taste are embedded in the Italian culture, so Italian guys don’t even notice they have this going for them.
Also, American girls often offer to share the bill after a few dates. American girls like flirting, but they’re much more direct.
If Germans need a new word, they just combine multiple other words together to make a new word. They go around your wrists instead of under your arms! Learning how to ride a bike in Germany is totally different than in the USA. First, casual dating/hook-up culture isn’t as prevalent in Germany as it is in the USA.
For Italian girls, it not only is the ‘cherry on top of the cake’ (as we say in Italy), it is an art you are going to have to master if you want to date an Italian girl.
In a series called Heartbeats on Deutschland.de, sixteen bi-national couples have shared their stories and offered advice for others in cross-cultural relationships.
Maybe I’m old-fashioned, but it still hard for me to ever think of purposely having a child before marriage. After answering “no” (cue the sympathy for my non-existent love life), I added, “because you know, German men never make moves!
” And she was like, “I had to make the move on my German husband because it was so obvious he liked me but would never say anything.” I’ve had this confirmed by multiple Germans.
Like a “get me on a plane because I want to move back to Germany ASAP” kind of missing it. Germans think it is ridiculous how much Americans sue.