You gotta suss them out - you may find something interesting. Make sure to NEVER to tell your 'mutual friend' about the date. Discuss posting no-nos to avoid future conflicts.6. But never let anything substitute a real connection in your relationship," says Orlando.Support each other online, but don't let it replace how you communicate. On a related note, it's easy to get swept up in your logged-on life that you prioritize it over your marriage, says Orlando.Orlando agrees, adding that not mentioning your husband is the online equivalent of not wearing your wedding band.2. Elizabeth Hanes of Albuquerque, NM, says she and her husband, Lee, know each other's logins to everything, but not so they can snoop on each other."It shows that neither of us have anything to hide," she says. "Once, a friend posted something inappropriate to Lee's wall, but he couldn't access Facebook from work so he asked me to delete the post for him," she says.
"It could be a buddy's sister who jumped in the photo, not the woman who wants to jump into bed with your husband," she says.
If you and your spouse gush about each other online, but then barely have a conversation when you're in the same room, make an effort to connect IRL (in real life, that is! "It's a common relationship infraction, but you have to learn balance so you don't end up losing connection with the people you care about most," he says.
He suggests designating tech-free times in your home, whether it's during dinner, after 8 p.m. Don't post anything that can be misinterpreted."You can't hear the sound of someone's voice when reading a Facebook post," reminds Spira.
"Chances are, it's not a big deal to him to add her to his many friends from the past."4. Too many couples overshare their spats on Facebook, says Spira, "and your friends don't want to see the drama in your marriage." Remember, posting about how your hubby annoyed you is like putting it on a neighborhood billboard.
Even when your intentions are innocent, posting about your partner can hurt feelings, as *Barbara of St. Her husband dropped off their son late to a birthday party.
For this reason, err on the side of caution with your posts, especially when communicating with members of the opposite sex. For instance, refrain from posting that a male coworker was "great last night." You'd know you're talking about his client dinner presentation, but that's not how everyone else will take it.