“I get so many of those …” I would swim the Amazon upstream with an airtank filled with Rosie O’Donnell’s queefs … “Seventy percent of the messages are straight-up blunt, vulgar shit. you need to not approach it that way.” On the free online-dating site OKCupid, Lauren is known as nebulaeandstuff: 23. I found her after a conversation with OKCupid co-founder Christian Rudder, who famously crunched the site’s user data on the blog OKTrends and sold a book based on it, Dataclysm, for seven figures.
he’s from South Dakota,” Lauren says, turning off her phone, which will ping with a dozen new queries before the waiter brings the check. Lauren receives around three dozen emails a day; in the last seven months, she’s received five-star ratings, the highest possible rating, from nearly 8,000 men.
Lauren received 245 messages in that one-week period.
While she was surprised to find that she is the most sought-after straight woman, she doesn’t think guys are complicated.
” It doesn’t hurt that Lauren, after getting out of a four-year relationship with a “pathological liar” who had a drug problem, isn’t necessarily looking for anything serious.
So, in OKCupid’s searchable “I’m looking for …” section, she, like most women, selected “long-term dating,” “short-term dating,” and “new friends.” Unlike most women, she also selected “casual sex,” figuring she might as well tell the truth.
(This is why OKCupid actually throttles traffic to popular accounts.
“We try hard to keep people from getting too many messages,” says Rudder.
Then a friend shared a deviously simple online-dating trick. If the woman he likes also swipes right, he has an official match. “I will say yes to every single person,” James says.At a quiet table in a dimly lit Lower East Side Italian restaurant, Lauren Urasek, a poised 23-year-old makeup artist with a Cleopatra haircut and cherry-red lipstick, is lit by the glow of her i Phone as she flips through online-dating messages. You’re like the girl I would make a profile of if I was making my ideal match. not usually into girls with tats but ur sexy we should chill i got a huge cock … In New York, online dating is practically a municipal utility, connecting millions of strangers.I think I literally said out loud, “Yes, you.” “That’s kind of normal,” she says, sipping a bourbon on the rocks. To find out how some people manage to stand apart from the masses, and how it feels to be so desired, I asked Rudder to introduce me to the most popular OKCupid daters in the city in four categories—straight and gay women and straight and gay men.“Sometimes there’s no stemming the tide.”) Her new account, loandthecosmos, looks similar, but “casual sex” isn’t selected.“The quality is better,” she says, though she admits that the experience of sifting through such a high percentage of creeps has made her more pessimistic; she finds it harder to tell the difference between “someone who’s genuine and someone who’s not; tons of my friends feel the same way.” She even worries that she’s wasting her time, like she’s racking up high scores on Candy Crush rather than really connecting.
Rudder analyzed the data from a one-week period in January and used a simple methodology: finding the users who receive the most messages from potential suitors.