As we see it, there are no straightforward, cut-and-dried answers to either of these questions.
You can see this clearly if you stop and think for a moment about the first part of your problem.
You're correct to point out that Jesus equates lust in the heart with the act of adultery.
What's more, He follows this up, just five verses later, by making allowances for divorce where or extra-marital sex has invaded a marriage relationship.
Talk to a trusted friend, pastor, or spiritual advisor.
If necessary, arrange for some kind of intervention.
When the heart gets drawn into the web, there's a greater potential for pathology.Is it really a more serious problem than, say, addiction to online pornography?To put it bluntly, can it be regarded as adulterous, does that mean that it gives the violated partner biblical grounds for divorce?There are clinical factors to be taken into account as well.According to Focus on the Family's professional counseling staff, the road to recovery is likely to be much longer and more complicated for an individual engaged in an ongoing interpersonal cyber-affair than it is for a porn addict.
That doesn't change the fact that "cybersex," unlike pornography or masturbation, usually involves another human being. This is where "virtual" sexual activity takes participants to a deeper and more troubling level.